We begin our sessions together by defining the problem as clearly and thoroughly as possible, listening very carefully to each partner's perceptions and experience. Couples are guided to address issues they carry with them from their original families and to understand how their family history influences their present relationship for good or ill. To deal with their points of conflict and unhappiness, I work with them to improve communication, negotiation, empathy, and their sense of humor. Through these, and other means, resolution of their conflicts is often obtained and a more accepting, enhanced, and fulfilling relationship follows.